The hand pointing backwards okatwa.Picha and Mercy matowo
- After being in love with the same man for over 17 years, they love each other and call each other all the good names you know, including not being told 'I love you my darling, I drink water I see the glass "... today will have turned span.
"I am not men, are bad people, they have hurt me my heart too," Eve says Francis, a resident of Ubungo, Dar es Salaam. The main reason is concern that has ever come across in terms of the relationship. Similarly there are men do not want to marry, for notes that there are women have been tortured.
Whether you are among the people who have given up on the issue of the relationship, be aware that not you pekee.Kuna large group of people have shatendewa much to do not to rest again.
tragedy hand-cut woman
was August 7, this year, two at night. It was a day iliyobadili history of his life. After being in love with the same man for over 17 years, they love each other and call each other names all the good you know, including not being told 'my darling I love you, I drink water I see the glass "... today will have turned span.
woman, backwards Kihiyo (35), mother six children, who lost his limbs due to sexual violence committed by men who have had a relationship with him (name withheld).
"Our relationship was good, but now I see things have been difficult for me, today I have no left hand and I removed part of my body on one side, "he says on the back, he bubujikwa tears due to disability was acquired.
Origin of disability
says their life relationships were fun for the entire period but turned span after a man of him showing signs of not please as initial condition, which is interpreted as perhaps she was with another woman.
backwards, says trials and tribulations started three years ago after her man feel that he has given birth to another woman. Worse appeared after her baby with another woman, plunged into the well of water and loss of life.
"death of the child, is kilichozaa problem of violence against me and kunisababishia disabilities, to be the man my woman who bore him, They claim that I have is I threw the water late their child to die, "says the mother.
threats before disability
backwards, he said immediately after the tragedy of child ended, a man of him he moved with his younger wife, but he has returned home and insult as he threatened to do whatever he lofikiri appropriate.
says after torture and threats to exceed decided to leave for her husband's out in April this year and decided to return to his parents as he left his children in the house they used to live.
says he was forced to leave children due to the order of her husband, who refused not to take, so he began life other lonely without children while riding his life to the business of selling fish.
says at the beginning of this month, was suffering from malaria and stay home without going into its business. August seventh this year, he got cheap and decided to greet her brother, who lives at a distance from their home and then yakamkuta happened to.
Explains have stayed with his brother until time of Futari they break their fast and surprised her phone ikiita, look at the number of his lover.Alipoipokea, was asked where he stood, he told her he is her brother and asked him to follow auction Akale meat act which he said he opposed it.
says later he decided to return home accompanied by her sister so close to their home as two hours not ku.Walipoagana, suddenly was astonished to hear the voice her husband ikimuita, he turned, he saw, he asked he came from and said he was her brother.
beatings and disability
He once answered the man began beating and finally he fell to the ground and her husband gave up the plan and start to cut different parts of his body.
Surely you die you being formed. Backwards has charangwa with swords from the bottom of the knee left leg up on the hips, has cut more parts of seven body.
It's like he wanted to cut her neck
says in a way he sees it as he intended to kill him saying that often with the sword he was focused on separating the neck. He Did the woman is putting hands around the neck to prevent planned, the act led to his left hand cut off completely.
Can not sit
author of this article later asked her at least sit down, because for most of the interview he was asleep, then he pojibiwa that he can not stay because there is meat large on the hips that have failed sewn.
Mama who says when her husband mcharanga swords, his mother continued to Ngolo (howl) for help, her brother was going but he failed to give support to be brother in law he had been chased by a machete.
Says noise of his mother helped save his life, as neighbors came forward, so the man began kuwakimbiza seeking to harm an act which she observed is a unique opportunity to rush into.
treatment
on the back, he said later his brothers, sought travel and successful treatment in the Hospital Referral KCMC where he was admitted for four days and returned home on the advice of the physician who attended him.
According to her, the doctor who is treating wanted him backwards assumes treated injuries at home to avoid the transmission of opportunistic infections as well as to avoid the cost of treatment.
"Its ability to deal with medical costs for Since I can not walk, I feel I rented a car and naoshwa three times a week. Help me, my brothers, my marriage imenifikisha here, "he said.
backwards and state violence in Manyara
RPC Manyara Region, Mental Mpwapwa says the suspect has not arrested because an unknown whereabouts, as he promised to keep working at it.
Telling more violence in Manyara , says exists, but is limited compared to other regions. He believes that it is still a great challenge for women, most of whom have been abusive.
significant factor for women in abusive mfumodume. Akasisitiza that the police force in the region continues to educate the community impact of violence and said those efforts should be emulated by the public and other organizations to ensure sexual violence is eradicated.
stance of activists
director of the civil society of Kwieco, dealing with every provision of legal aid and the right of men in Kilimanjaro, lawyer Elizabeth Minde, says the situation is particularly bad for a couple of girls, as many within marriage does not have power.
nation lilipofikia
situation of violence against women in the country is still great due to statistics showing 39 percent of women between the ages years of 15 to 49 experienced violence.
Minister says
Deputy Minister of Community Development Gender and Children, Ummy teacher admitted violence against women increased by say acts as beatings and rape is one leading more and are made by men, while stressing keep looking how to do to women in to continue enjoying life.
journey of marriage
According to the psychologist, Modesta Kimonga-making, his advice Mbeya Region, marriage can be compared to a long journey with one unexpected turn of events, some pleasant and some painful.
says success in marriage not yapimwi to embark down the trip but is measured by how peers respond in these situations That saying is a key issue for those in couples learn how to tackle challenges as they arise, not kutesana or kukimbiana.
advice over
Advisor famous couple in Britain, Hussain Zahid says in features of his book 'My marriage' that is based on my marriage to be a good marriage is to find time to talk between spouses themselves to resolve their differences.
"Everyone feel has a debt of love to his partner and perform well. Every man should learn good statements and good actions to his partner ... that before doing anything, reflections, would rejoice to undergo this you want to do, "he warned.
signature style new life for some women
studies suggest that due to the presence of scratches many at will, there women no longer want to be married. If the goal is to have a child or children, tend to bear any even as the husband of a person, then the responsibility of caring for a large percentage makes them or to cooperate with those who bear them.
Yet various experts on the issue of marriage, they advised people to stop behavior the bearing only, instead to want to bear being in a relationship because a child who has one parent, are affected by psychological problems.
example of research
According to a study released recently by the National Bureau of Statistics the U.S., you're more likely to be children with raised by one parent to be a more serious nature of children with both parents.
"Just a matter of copying the behavior and misdeeds, children who have one parent they destroyed five times more than children with both parents," says part of the study.
The study added that even reached the age of adolescence, young people who have one parent, they destroyed more than those who have both parents, the children likely to damage three times more than young people who live with both parents.
Not all are corrupt
However, research emphasizes that not all children have one parent behavior, but it is said that a large percentage of such children are spoiled than those who are raised by both parents. Hardest hit are those whose parents have talakiana, especially because many times the power of raising children is reduced due to the parent or parents concerned that stress.
terrible deeds such as one parent abused the other or child to see the mother or father was accused his partner, contributes significantly to continue affecting the child kitabia.Tabia like fighting or suffering other before the couple divorce, contributes to destroy a child's life to see maybe fighting is the best way to fight someone who hinder or else shocked and relationships that can lead to suffering .
Causes of conflict and its treatment
Researcher prominent issues of marriage from Russia, Korotayev, A, in its publication was lolipa name "Division of Labor by Gender 'the division of roles in gender, says the key to have a serious relationship in many marriages is no opportunity to sit together and agree to remove the defects.
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